WHEN a wife cheats, don’t rush to divorce, forgive her and move on, says Seventh-day Adventist pastor Ephraim Mutoya, reminding men that if women can forgive them when they cheat, so can they. Pst Mutoya says it’s unfair to assume a woman’s adultery should automatically break a home while a man’s wouldn’t, because you can’t just follow outdated traditions of Ubuchende bwamwaume tabutoba ing’anda, meaning the infidelity of a man does not destroy the marriage. Pst Mutoya is the District Pastor for Ganerton Mission District in Kitwe of the Northern Zambia Union of the SDA Church. He is also a marriage counsellor, life and relationship coach, and has been married for 22 years. Responding to a question during a live...