After a beautiful surprise 50 birthday party, attended by the elite in society with her favourite musician performing. Mrs. Munene had to thank her husband with the best massage her hands could offer, serving him a whole chicken in appreciation of all he did for her especially her brand-new show room car. But she could not believe her ears when her husband asked her if she could have a BBL done if he provided the money. Since when does Mr. Munene know about BBLs? Whom has he been hanging out with to suggest she does a BBL? Does it mean he no longer found her attractive? Did he now have too much money as a big shot government supplier? 25 years in marriage and she had given him 4 children all through C-section. Over the years, she had gained some weight and this made her lose her hour glass shape, over-taken by a big mummy pouch. Mrs. Munene back in days was the talk of her town. There was no guy in her neighborhood that didn’t try to make advances to her. Her breasts were the perfect large size, hips and butt big enough to make everyone turn as she walked. It didn’t matter what clothes she wore because even a simple chitenge actually made her shape more visible.

BBL stands for Brazilian Butt Lift, a cosmetic surgery procedure that transfers fat from areas like the abdomen or thighs to the buttocks, increasing their size and shape. It is highly popular for creating an hourglass figure but carries high risks including potential fatality from fat embolism ( a serious, often fatal complication occurring 1–3 days after major trauma. It occurs when fat globules enter the bloodstream, causing respiratory failure, cerebral dysfunction and potentially death), if performed incorrectly, making surgeon qualifications crucial.

Most people wonder why a woman would let herself go through a dangerous procedure that could potentially lead to death. Well, if you want to know how important hips and butt are to a certain gender, think about how much you care about a man’s height. If you care deeply about how tall a man is, know that some men feel just as strongly about your waist size, hip size and butt size. If you don’t care about height, it’s also true that some men couldn’t care less about your waist, hip or butt size. And most people will say it won’t matter in heaven.

For the other gender; accused of eating the apple, would you be physically attracted to a body that’s frail? Few will say they don’t care, but most prefer men who are strong, coordinated, and physically able. Men feel the same way when looking at the hip, butt and a portable waist.

Majority of people in relationships admit that when partners improve their appearance, their relationships improved as well. Taking good care of yourself is always attractive to both the daughters of Eve and the sons of Solomon.

Most of our brothers are not looking for a balloon type but prefer a healthy and feminine lady in a more natural way. But if she is well built, it comes as an added advantage.

Having a very physically attractive partner is no guarantee that you will have a great life as even beautiful or handsome people get divorced. Getting into good shape certainly makes one more beautiful or handsome.

By far the more important thing is to reach that baseline level of attractiveness whereby when you look at yourself, you feel confident. You don’t need to be anywhere close to perfection for you to feel that way. If you get into great shape, you’ll almost certainly be much more beautiful than average.

The majority of women have a body “type” that somewhat fits into one of these three categories:

• Naturally Thick: The naturally thicker woman might be on her feet all day and doing a few workouts per week. But maybe she has a large stomach and an eager appetite, and it all goes right to her thighs. She might be trying harder than anyone to lose weight, but it’s a struggle.
• Naturally Thin: The thinner woman may have a slender bone structure, a small stomach, a skimpy appetite, and prefer endurance exercise that keeps her fit but doesn’t build much muscle. She may even be trying and failing to gain weight.
• Natural Hourglass: Some women have naturally broader shoulders, narrower waists, and wider hips, with a tendency to store more of their fat in their butts, thighs, and breasts. That can make it easy to have a shapely figure, even without much effort or exercise.
All three of these women might be in great health. All three of them might put the same amount of thought and energy into health and fitness. However, most brothers will choose the hourglass woman if looks are the basis of selection.

Men are attracted to healthy women, but they mistakenly assume women prefer unhealthfully big guys with muscles. Women are attracted to healthy men, but they mistakenly assume men prefer unhealthfully thin women. Just like some men fall into the trap of “more muscle is more manly, is more better,” some women assume “more slender is more feminine, is more better.”

Women don’t like having cellulite or stretch marks, but most men don’t even notice or care, especially when it isn’t extreme. Most men actually find feminine traits in women to be attractive, and cellulite or stretch marks is caused by a feminine amount of fat stored in a feminine area, pushing out against more feminine fascia (a thin, strong, and flexible connective tissue mainly that wraps around muscles, organs, nerves, and bones to provide structure, support, and separation between them). As long as you don’t have an unhealthy amount of body fat, cellulite shouldn’t harm your appearance. Other men actually find cellulite or stretch marks to be attractive and a turn-on. Like they say, another man’s poison is another man’s cup of tea.

It is said that men are more than twice as likely to glance at your breasts before looking at your face. Most women’s breasts lose some firmness after being pregnant and larger breasts tend to sag. While all woman’s breasts fall as the years continue to pull down on them.

Most women have a natural inclination to focus on their glutes and thighs. That isn’t wrong. Building bigger glutes and thighs is great for your health, looks great to everyone, and gives you a more feminine body shape. You can build your quads with squat variations and ladies are knowing and practicing squats.

A lot of men usually find it attractive when women arch their lower backs. It’s the arch that gets exaggerated when you wear high heels. It’s the arch you see all over social media. It’s unclear why men prefer this specific 45-degree lumbar curve and for women, it’s an ideal posture for managing extra weight of a pregnancy.

Youthfulness is attractive and this is why the beauty industry is so concerned with all kinds of different creams and potions to keep women looking young, whereas your typical man’s beauty routine consists of rinsing his face with water every morning. On the other hand, a man who doesn’t care about wrinkles will head to the gym and train for 1–2 hours, trying to maintain a high level of athleticism as he ages. The average man just wants a great woman he can grow old with.

The good news is that you can look remarkably young for your age by living an especially healthy lifestyle:

• Lifting weights: Gaining muscle and strength gives you an athletic body composition and posture, keeping you youthful and healthy. You can maintain an impressive amount of muscle into your seventies. Lifting weights also improves skin elasticity and reduces wrinkles. It adds a few years to your lifespan.
• Cardio: Getting fitter makes you biologically younger when you’re first getting into better shape, and then it slows your rate of aging as you keep yourself in good shape. It improves your energy levels, gives your skin a more radiant glow, reduces wrinkles, and improves skin elasticity. It can add many years to your lifespan.
• Diet: A nutritious diet rich in protein, healthy fats, fibre, vitamins, minerals, and polyphenols (natural, antioxidant-rich micronutrients found in plant-based foods is great for maintaining skin collagen and skin health). A good diet can shift more of your fat to your butt, thighs, and breasts, with less around your waist. It helps keep off every disease. It slows your rate of aging and increases your lifespan.
• Lifestyle: You can avoid excessive drinking, smoking, and drugs. You can drink plenty of water. And you can try to get to bed at around the same time every night, giving yourself at least seven to eight hours of sleep.
If you do a good enough job at all of this, you can dramatically slow your rate of aging and stay looking youthful for many years. Most people lose muscle as they age, but you can build more. Most people gain fat as they get older, but you can lose it. Most people’s fitness gets worse, but yours can get better. Most peoples posture weakens, but yours can grow stronger. If you keep your skin healthy, it will stay firm and smooth for decades longer than average.

They say, “safety ni wemwine” and so is “health and looking good.” Rushing to cosmetic surgery is a quick fix that has more risks than the simpler method of taking a deliberate plan to look after one’s health. Do not expect the best-looking body if it is fed on junk food. Love yourself well enough to take care of your body by watching what you eat, exercising and drinking lots of water. Going to the gym might not be everyone’s cup of tea but you can utilize your space in the home by going online and searching for exercises that can be done indoors. To the ladies, no female is born with a FUPA, you can do something about it with simple exercise, in the comfort of your house.

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