Winnie always knew she was destined for big things. As a member of the drama club in high school, she enjoyed acting and singing, and she felt she was destined for more. It did not come as a shock to her family when she became a backup vocalist immediately after Grade 12 for a prominent musician. Later, she decided to pursue a solo recording career, as this had always been her aspiration.

From his days as head boy, Mwansa knew he was destined for leadership. It was no surprise that he was standing as an MP, but his eyes were on a bigger picture—“Eagle One”—someday in the future. As Tom handed him the car keys, he wished he didn’t have to report to anyone; one day, the taxi business would be his. He would be his own boss, and so he faithfully worked, looking forward to the two years when his boss would hand over the vehicle to him as per their agreement.

I recently asked a few friends if they had aspirations as adults. Most felt that being able to provide for their families so they could lead comfortable lives was good enough. At what age should we stop having aspirations? At what age do we give up on the life we always dreamed of and accept whatever life throws at us?

We should not look down on people’s dreams, just as we would never want anyone to look down on ours. We must respect people who not only desire but act and impact the world, while also respecting individuals who desire simplicity. Every human being has the right to choose whether to have aspirations or not. For those who dreamed big growing up, what happened to those dreams?

Aspirations are dreams, hopes, or ambitions to achieve a life goal. They can be thought of as overarching life goals that provide a sense of purpose and direction. Examples include being successful in your career, maintaining strong relationships, traveling the world, or being a good parent.

While the term is often used synonymously with “goals,” there are important differences. Goals are backed by actions and are often centered on the short term or near future. Aspirations tend to be more future-focused and general.

The aspirations you have can vary in terms of scope and ambition. Some people have simple aspirations that are relatively easy to achieve, while others have high aspirations, aiming for things that many only dream about, such as becoming a president. Others may dream of becoming a successful entrepreneur, a landlord to multiple tenants, or owning a taxi business.

Your level of aspiration may be connected to your sense of self-worth. High aspirations can be motivating and indicate a strong belief in your ability to achieve your ambitions. Conversely, low aspirations may suggest low self-belief.

There is nothing wrong with humbler aspirations, but it can be helpful to explore the reasons behind them. If your goals are limited by poor self-esteem or low confidence, it is worth examining ways to boost your self-worth.

There are two main types of aspirations:

Intrinsic aspirations satisfy psychological needs and enhance well-being.

Extrinsic aspirations focus on instrumental outcomes, such as wealth or fame. These can sometimes harm well-being and divert resources from intrinsic goals.

Extrinsic aspirations often include:

Financial goals: Achieving financial independence or a specific income.

Popularity goals: Gaining esteem or recognition, whether on a large scale or within a smaller social circle.

Intrinsic aspirations often focus on:

Social goals: Building meaningful relationships, volunteering, or contributing to the community.

Family goals: Starting a family, marriage, and parenting.

Skill development: Becoming skilled or talented in an area of interest, such as music, art, or sports.

Career aspirations may include both intrinsic and extrinsic elements. These can involve gaining professional skills, experiences, and achievements, while sometimes also focusing on wealth or status.

Some people have broad, general aspirations, while others have a specific vision for their life. It is also common for people to be uncertain about their aspirations.

To develop life aspirations that inspire you, ask yourself: What do I hope to achieve or experience? Which activities excite me the most? Reflecting on your passions can provide clues about the life you aspire to.

It is important to remember that aspirations can evolve. You do not need to have everything figured out now. Explore, learn, and grow. Try new things, gather information about yourself, and consider how your experiences contribute to your aspirations. Age should never prevent you from dreaming. Aspirations can change with time, but it is never too late to pursue new goals.

Aspirations do not need to be grand. Your dreams do not need to match those of others. Whether your goal is to be a tailor, a successful farmer, or a top musician, pursue what is meaningful to you.

Understanding what gives your life meaning can also help clarify your aspirations. What makes you feel fulfilled? Which causes or passions drive you? Exploring your interests can help shape your goals.

Aspirations have many benefits, including:

Promoting personal growth and change

Demonstrating priorities for social and political action

Improving psychological health and helping people achieve goals

Contributing to positive change in individuals and communities

They provide purpose, hope, and motivation. Even if aspirations sometimes resemble daydreams, they offer a vision for the life you want. A vision can keep you focused on the steps needed to achieve your goals.

Not all aspirations are realized. Circumstances change, or priorities shift. Flexibility and resilience help you pursue new goals. Consider creating a vision board as a visual reminder of your dreams.

While aspirations are powerful, they can also be unhelpful if they are unrealistic, socially imposed, or conflict with daily life. When faced with setbacks, maintain optimism, adapt, and use your experience as an advantage.

Finally, surround yourself with friends who support your dreams, and seek guidance when needed—visit a counselor if necessary. Aspirations are for everyone, at any age. Never stop dreaming.

About the author

Aka Monde, is a licensed Professional Counsellor who holds a Master of Science in Counselling from the University of Zambia. She believes in the adage “a problem shared, is a problem half solved.” Speak to your pastor, church elder, elderly family member or see a professional counsellor when in need.

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